Why Remarrying Can Seem Easier Than a First Marriage
Translated & summarized from Arutz Sheva by baba
Relationship coach Sarit Shavit suggests that war widows find remarrying easier than singles find their first marriage because they understand the value of partnership. Shavit advises singles to weigh the perceived benefits of marriage against its sacrifices, arguing that a clear understanding of marital rewards is needed to justify the costs. She recommends exploring hidden advantages of marriage through consultation to help singles overcome hesitation and move towards commitment.
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- War widows find remarrying easier than singles find their first marriage due to prior experience, according to coach Sarit Shavit.
- Singles may hesitate to marry if they don't clearly perceive the benefits outweighing the sacrifices of single life.
- A social media debate arose over war widows remarrying, causing confusion among single individuals.
- Coach Shavit advises singles to assess marriage's pros and cons to understand their hesitation.
- Exploring hidden marital benefits through consultation can help singles move towards commitment.
A relationship coach suggests that individuals who have previously experienced a good marriage may have a clearer understanding of its value, making it easier for them to remarry compared to singles seeking their first marriage. This perspective arises from a recent social media debate sparked by war widows becoming engaged and remarrying, which drew both support and confusion from single individuals looking for partners.
Sarit Shavit, a coach with Project 252, focuses on how singles perceive the trade-offs involved in marriage. She explains that choosing marriage involves relinquishing the freedoms of single life for the happiness it can bring. However, for those not yet married, this happiness is not fully apparent, and the perceived "price" of marriage, considering a partner's and children's needs over personal desires, can seem high.
Shavit argues that singles often struggle to commit to marriage because the benefits aren't clear enough to justify the sacrifices. They may only see the value when an "ideal" partner appears, and if a potential partner doesn't fit this perfect mold, the deal seems less worthwhile. In contrast, widows who have experienced a good marriage remember its joys and understand that sacrificing independence and the illusion of single perfection is worth the expected happiness.
To help singles overcome this, Shavit advises a self-assessment. By comparing the perceived advantages and disadvantages of marriage, individuals can identify if their evaluation makes marriage seem less appealing than its cost. If disadvantages outweigh advantages, it suggests a need to explore the hidden benefits of partnership, perhaps through consultation with married couples or by seeking guidance from relationship coaches like those at Project 252, to gain a clearer perspective and move towards marriage with greater readiness.
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