Author Questions Premature Acceptance of Elderly Decline
Translated & summarized from Srugim by baba
An author reflects on the tendency to accept the decline of elderly parents as inevitable due to age, questioning if families give up too soon on exploring treatments that could improve their quality of life. He uses the example of a businessman diligently accompanying his father with dementia to therapy as a call to action for continued effort and hope.
The story in 6 lines · by baba
- Families may prematurely accept elderly decline as inevitable old age.
- Aggressive treatment efforts for the young contrast with less effort for the elderly.
- Even small improvements can significantly enhance an elderly person's life.
- The author urges against automatic acceptance of functional decline due to age.
- Honoring parents includes seeking to improve their lives, not giving up.
- The focus should be on adding life to years, not just years to life.
A chance encounter with a friend, Nir Konik, known as 'Dr. Simplicity' and a successful businessman, prompted the author to question whether families too quickly accept the decline of their elderly parents, attributing it to old age rather than exploring all possible treatments.
Konik shared that he accompanies his father, who suffers from dementia, to hyperbaric oxygen therapy sessions almost daily at Shamir Medical Center (Assaf Harofeh). He reported observing improvements in his father's functioning and quality of life, a dedication that struck the author given Konik's demanding schedule.
The author contrasts the vigorous efforts families make for sick children or young adults with a tendency to accept limitations in older individuals, often dismissing them with "it's just old age." While acknowledging that aging brings inevitable changes and some conditions are incurable, the author emphasizes a fine line between realistic acceptance and premature surrender.
The piece argues that even small improvements in an elderly person's life, such as increased independence, reduced pain, or better mobility, can significantly enhance their quality of life and sense of agency. The author, who works in the medical field, observes that the phrase "he's already old" can sometimes overshadow a thorough evaluation of potential treatments, sometimes due to fatigue or a desire to avoid disappointment.
Ultimately, the author urges readers not to give up on seeking ways to improve the lives of elderly individuals, even when a cure is not possible. He suggests continuing to ask questions, explore options, and challenge the automatic assumption that functional decline is an unchangeable fate simply because of age. This dedication, the author posits, is a profound expression of honoring parents, focusing on adding life to years rather than just years to life.