Coach Michal Wohlstein on Guiding Single Women Towards Marriage
Translated & summarized from Walla by baba
Michal Wohlstein, a coach for single women, has built a leading online school to guide them towards marriage, a profession she says she "didn't know" she was creating. She addresses issues like "imposter syndrome" before weddings and advises women to approach relationships with self-assurance. Wohlstein also cautions mothers against pressuring their single daughters, suggesting that open communication and self-confidence are key to finding love.
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- Michal Wohlstein coaches single women for marriage, a profession she unexpectedly developed.
- Her online school has helped thousands of women prepare for weddings.
- Wohlstein identifies "imposter syndrome" as a major obstacle for women nearing marriage.
- She advises women to approach relationships with confidence and self-assurance.
- Wohlstein warns mothers against pressuring their single daughters about marriage.
Michal Wohlstein, who now coaches single women preparing for marriage, described her journey from a secular-traditional upbringing to a deep connection with Judaism, influenced by her grandfather. As a child, she felt a lack of religious peers and, by her own account, "created a reality" by telling friends her father was religious and buying religious items to impress them. Years later, her father became fully observant, and she found herself in the synagogue she had dreamed of as a child.
Over twenty years ago, before late-term singlehood became a widely discussed issue in the religious sector, Wohlstein began accompanying many young women. Initially viewing these as regular coaching sessions, she soon realized she was being guided by divine providence to help women seeking marriage, without any prior planning. "I didn't know I was creating a profession," she stated.
What started as personal sessions in her clinic evolved into a leading online school for coaching single women for marriage. Graduates of her courses have gone on to launch their own initiatives, helping thousands of women. Wohlstein highlights "imposter syndrome" as a significant factor in matchmaking, where highly capable women experience extreme anxiety, vomiting, and paralysis just before their wedding, stemming from a conflict between unconscious beliefs like "I am not worthy" and the positive reality awaiting them.
She proposes that the solution lies in "hitbodedut" (secluded contemplation) and daily, honest dialogue with God, which connects the mind to the heart. Wohlstein also offers direct advice to parents and the younger generation. She cautions mothers against pressuring their daughters about being single, as this can instill feelings of failure and disappointment. To single women, she emphasizes the true secret to love: "You come with your life, with your personality, and your chin held high, you don't come just to be taken, but to project: I have myself, do you want to join?"
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