Bereaved Families Pursue Sons' Last Wishes for Continuity Through Posthumous Paternity

Two Israeli families have received court approval to use the sperm of their sons, who fell in combat, to have children, fulfilling what they describe as the soldiers' dying wishes for continuity. Avi and Sigal Harush were granted permission to use the sperm of their 20-year-old son, Rif Harush, an Egoz unit fighter who was killed in Gaza in April 2024. The Harush family is now seeking a woman to carry their son's child, emphasizing that she must understand she is joining a family that will be actively involved in raising the child.

In a separate, long-standing case, Irit and Asher Shahar received approval to use the sperm of their son, officer Omri Shahar, who died in a 2012 traffic accident during his service. Their 14-year legal battle involved changing their initial request to raise the child themselves to finding a surrogate mother, while they would serve as grandparents. The process was fraught with challenges, including the state's opposition and the surrogate mother's near withdrawal after two and a half years of waiting.

Both families acknowledge the emotional toll and public criticism they have faced. Avi Harush stated that while he used to explain their decision, he now draws a line, saying, "Let's agree that I deal with my dead son and you with your living children." He also dismissed the notion that children born from a deceased father would be mere "monuments," asserting they would be "the happiest children."

According to Health Ministry data, sperm was collected posthumously from 271 individuals, including 250 soldiers and 21 civilians, between October 7, 2023, and November 2025. However, a lack of specific legislation means families must obtain court approval for its use, leading to lengthy legal battles. "The absurdity is screaming to the heavens," said Irit Oren Gunders, Chairwoman of the 'Or le'Mishpechot' organization, which supports bereaved families and advocates for continuity legislation. She highlighted that while the IDF now informs families of the option to collect sperm, the subsequent legal hurdles remain significant.

The Shahar family finds solace in the hope of continuing their son's legacy, envisioning holiday gatherings with grandchildren. Avi Harush dreams of simple moments, like walking with Rif's children in Tel Aviv, viewing this as a gift from his son that they will not relinquish.