Oncologists Share Personal Battles Fighting Cancer in Their Own Children

Two Israeli oncologists have shared their deeply personal and challenging experiences of confronting cancer within their own families, highlighting the profound emotional and professional impact of such diagnoses. Dr. Yair Hazkiyahou-Steinberg, an oncology resident at Sheba Medical Center, faced the devastating news when his infant daughter, Mika, was diagnosed with neuroblastoma at one year old. The diagnosis came after weeks of uncertainty and pain, leading to immediate treatment at Schneider Children's Medical Center. Dr. Hazkiyahou-Steinberg described the initial shock and disbelief, noting that no professional training could truly prepare him for this personal crisis. He explained that his doctoral research in cancer was delayed, as was his wife's, due to the intense focus on Mika's care. He emphasized that the struggle doesn't end with treatment, as ongoing medical follow-ups and the psychological toll create a persistent sense of post-traumatic stress.

Dr. Hila Nobel, an adult oncology resident, experienced a similar ordeal when her elder daughter, Eve, was diagnosed with neuroblastoma at 15 months old. Eve underwent complex treatments, including surgery and rehabilitation, and eventually recovered. However, just a few years later, her younger daughter, Maya, was diagnosed with leukemia. Maya is currently undergoing treatment and is also attending "Dream Garden," an educational and rehabilitative framework for children with cancer. Dr. Nobel recounted the feeling of déjà vu and the added complexity of managing two children with cancer while also raising two other children.

Both doctors stressed the importance of open communication with their children about their illnesses, using age-appropriate language and resources like children's books. They described the daily challenges of managing treatments, side effects, and maintaining a semblance of normalcy, including taking precautions to protect their children's weakened immune systems. Dr. Hazkiyahou-Steinberg recalled disinfecting playground equipment late at night so Mika could play safely. Dr. Nobel had to pause her residency to provide 24/7 care for Maya, highlighting the immense demands placed on parents.

They both expressed frustration with the common phrase, "How did you do it?" asserting that facing such a crisis leaves no alternative but to fight for their child's life. The experience has profoundly shaped their professional perspectives, fostering greater empathy and understanding towards their own patients and their families. Efrat Lichtman, CEO of the "Bigs from Life" association, which runs "Dream Garden," stated that childhood cancer is a journey that shakes an entire family, and their program aims to help children continue to be children by integrating education, rehabilitation, and emotional support.