Couples Therapist Discusses Sexual Passion and Relationship Stagnation Inspired by Film "The Invitation"
Li Reuveni, a 48-year-old couples and sex therapist managing the "Menade" clinic in the Menashe Regional Council, discusses the themes of the film "The Invitation," currently showing in cinemas. The movie centers on Joe and Angela, portrayed by Seth Rogen and Olivia Wilde, who live a monotonous life with little passion or sexual activity. Their routine existence contrasts sharply with their new neighbors, Pina and Hawk (Penelope Cruz and Edward Norton), who openly embrace sexuality and intimacy, sparking jealousy and curiosity in Joe and Angela.
Reuveni explains that the couple's lack of sexual desire reflects a broader loss of passion in their lives, where they have abandoned dreams and creativity for mundane concerns like home decor. She notes that when people stop feeling truly alive and engaged, it becomes difficult to sustain sexual passion. The therapist highlights that many couples gradually stop investing in their relationship, accepting routine and losing belief in change.
In her clinical experience, Reuveni observes that the pressures of life in Israel, including work and family responsibilities, leave little time or energy for intimacy. Therapy focuses not only on sexual issues but also on missing elements like friendship, courtship, shared time, and emotional connection. The film's sexologist character, inspired by renowned therapist Esther Perel, emphasizes that sex is not just a physical act but an emotional and mental space requiring presence, playfulness, and curiosity.
Reuveni stresses that couples who prioritize sexuality and openly communicate about desires tend to maintain a vibrant sexual connection. She also underscores the importance of self-awareness and self-investment, suggesting that individuals who feel comfortable and desirous within themselves are more likely to inspire desire in their partners. Her key takeaway for couples is to never take sexuality for granted and to actively nurture it through attention, conversation, and mutual enjoyment.
