Israeli Expert Urges Redefining Male Strength Amid Emotional Struggles and Life Transitions

Tamir Ashman, a social work lecturer at Tel Aviv University and co-CEO of the Shabbat Brothers Association, highlights the emotional challenges men face during major life transitions such as fatherhood, divorce, retirement, illness, and returning from military service. He explains that men often experience a state of "liminality," where their old identity no longer fits but a new one has yet to form, leading to feelings of helplessness and isolation. Ashman stresses that men are not born emotionally disabled but are socialized from childhood to suppress vulnerability and avoid expressing emotions like sadness, fear, or helplessness.

Ashman points out that this emotional repression can result in men withdrawing, exhibiting anger outbursts, developing addictions, or even suicidal thoughts. He challenges traditional notions of masculinity that equate strength with stoicism and self-reliance, arguing instead for a broader definition that includes the ability to express vulnerability and seek help. He notes that Israeli men, especially since the October 7 attacks, have been navigating between front-line combat and home life, often struggling silently with the psychological toll.

The article cites alarming statistics from the Israeli Ministry of Health showing that men account for nearly 80% of suicide deaths, reflecting a hidden crisis of unaddressed emotional distress. Ashman advocates for men’s circles as supportive spaces where men can learn to articulate their feelings in the first person, build trust, and break the cycle of emotional isolation. He emphasizes that healing begins when men’s experiences are acknowledged and validated within a group.

Looking ahead, Ashman calls for a cultural shift in Israeli society to redefine male strength as the capacity to slow down, admit fear or helplessness, and collaborate with loved ones. He announces a special conference on July 29, 2026, at Tel Aviv University’s School of Social Work, focusing on men’s coping strategies during transitions and crises, aiming to teach men how to express and manage their emotions before reaching a breaking point.