Mother Continues Son's Mission to Improve Israeli Discourse

Amidst an intensifying election period, Sarit Sussman is actively working to counter toxic public discourse in Israel through her initiative, 'Ha'Dibbur' (The Talk). Three years after her son, Sergeant (Res.) Ben Sussman, fell in combat in the Gaza Strip, Sarit views her work not as commemoration, but as a continuation of his mission to protect the country.

Sussman believes that even during elections, or perhaps especially then, a different approach to dialogue is possible. She emphasizes that both public officials and citizens have a choice in how they engage with disagreements. "Change makers are always there, if we choose to be part of it," she stated, highlighting that this stance is a conscious decision rather than naivete.

For nearly two and a half years, 'Ha'Dibbur' has strived to alter public discourse, countering the notion that constructive dialogue lacks ratings appeal. The initiative has fostered collaborations with media outlets, creating regular segments and encouraging politicians and public figures to adopt a more constructive language. Sussman noted instances of deleted tweets, altered speeches, and advisors who have been influenced by their efforts.

She observes that both political camps believe the other side is the problem, justifying their own toxic rhetoric as necessary for saving Israel. Sussman advocates for a more responsible approach, recalling a childhood lesson: "I don't care who started it, I care who will be the first to stop." She urges elected officials to set aside animosity and engage in responsible debate.

Sussman connects this mission directly to her son's final words, expressing gratitude for the opportunity to defend Israel. She feels a personal duty to address what she perceives as a security threat posed by internal division and toxic speech. "Our children went out to defend the home, and we are now defending the home which is Israeli society," she explained.

Beyond her public discourse work, Sussman's family is establishing a table tennis center in Jerusalem in Ben's memory. He was a distinguished athlete in the sport, characterized by a desire for self-improvement rather than rivalry. The center aims to cultivate good people and future generations who embody his values. The holiday season, particularly Rosh Hashanah, is a difficult time for the family, as the absence of Ben is acutely felt, creating a void that she acknowledges will never be filled.