Israeli Charity Fights Suicide Stigma, Offers Support to Bereaved Families

Ofra Hermesh founded the Israeli organization Bishvil Hahayim after her son, Assaf, died by suicide at age 19 while serving in the military. For nearly 30 years, Hermesh has advocated for open discussion about suicide, inspired by her personal tragedy and the subsequent silence and stigma she and her family encountered. Assaf, a soldier in the armored corps, was reportedly called back to his unit following a mobilization exercise, and his parents were informed of his death upon their return from vacation.

Initially, Assaf's family received psychological support from the army due to his military status. This experience prompted Ofra and her husband, Haggai Hermesh, a psychiatrist, to address the needs of families dealing with civilian suicides and the societal taboo surrounding such deaths. In 2000, they officially established Bishvil Hahayim, which now offers therapeutic groups, support for grieving families, and suicide prevention programs. The organization collaborates with schools, businesses, and public institutions.

Bishvil Hahayim reports that 500 to 550 people die by suicide annually in Israel, with over 10,000 attempted suicides. Clinical psychologist Maya Iohan-Barak, a board member, emphasizes that prevention should begin in childhood by teaching young people to recognize psychological distress and seek help. She also stresses that directly asking someone if they are suicidal does not plant the idea but can facilitate professional intervention.

The issue has gained renewed urgency following the October 7th attacks and the ongoing war. Iohan-Barak noted that some survivors of the Nova festival and residents of Gaza-adjacent communities have died by suicide, highlighting the long-term psychological impact of trauma. Bishvil Hahayim aims to expand its outreach to underserved populations, including the ultra-Orthodox community, the Arab sector, and lone soldiers. Ofra Hermesh continues her work from her son's former room, dedicated to breaking the silence so that lives can be saved.