The article argues that the fast, swipe-driven culture has seeped into dating, especially in religious communities, turning people into entries to be screened against endless expectations. In that process, the writer says, people forget the most important fact, that the person across from them is a human being, not a product.
It defines ghosting as the silent disappearance after a date or short relationship, through unread messages, ignored calls, or sudden blocking. The author says many people avoid the mild discomfort of a respectful refusal, but that choice damages the other person's dignity and has become a widespread social norm. In the writer's view, ghosting is essentially a one-person boycott, and how someone ends even a brief connection says far more about their character than about the other side.
Drawing on their work in education, the author contrasts adult behavior with the effort invested in teaching children and teenagers not to shame or exclude others. Dating, the piece says, should not be treated only as a tedious filter on the way to marriage, but as a meaningful setting for personal growth, self-knowledge, communication, emotional honesty, and learning how to deal with disappointment and incompatibility.
The article closes by urging readers to respond respectfully when a relationship is not working. If there was only one meeting, it recommends sending a kind message; if there were several, it says to make a phone call. The author calls on people not to be afraid of sensitivity or courtesy, and insists that dating should be a space of respect, growth, and hope rather than cynicism and coldness.
