Israeli Man Shares Journey From Relationships With Women to Marriage and Parenthood With Male Partner
Yaniv Neuman-Eyal, 48, shares his personal journey of coming out as gay and building a family with his partner Shahar, whom he has been with for 18 years. Before meeting Shahar, Yaniv had only been in relationships with women and struggled to accept his sexuality. He describes how Shahar helped him come out and live authentically. The couple met in the United States when Yaniv was 30 and Shahar was visiting. Initially, both thought Yaniv was straight, but their friendship quickly deepened into a romantic relationship after a memorable night together.
They lived in the US for over four years before returning to Israel, where Yaniv finally came out to his family and friends. They are now married and live in the Gederot area with their three children, all born via surrogacy in Canada through the company "Temuz Israel," where Yaniv has worked for the past three years. Shahar runs a therapeutic dog training business. Yaniv emphasizes the close relationship they have with their surrogate mother from Alberta, Canada, who has become like family and even stayed with them during recent security tensions in Israel.
Yaniv explains the complexities of surrogacy, noting that while it is now possible in Israel, many choose international options due to shorter timelines and different regulations. He highlights that Israeli surrogates tend to be highly educated and motivated by ideology, contrasting with some international surrogates who may be driven primarily by financial compensation. Yaniv notes a growing trend of gay men seeking parenthood and credits Temuz Israel with supporting this shift.
Reflecting on his past, Yaniv says he does not feel regret but acknowledges missing out on natural experiences of exploring his identity earlier. He advises patience and trust for those undergoing surrogacy, as the process involves uncertainties and challenges. Yaniv’s story illustrates a journey of self-acceptance, love, and family-building within the Israeli LGBTQ community.
