Matchmaking Coach Explains Why Abundance Can Delay Marriage in Israel
In a recent episode of the podcast "Katan Aliah," Hanna Katan interviewed Nahama Kober, founder of a wedding coaching school, about the growing challenges singles face in the Israeli matchmaking world. They discussed why many people receive multiple marriage proposals yet struggle to reach the wedding altar, highlighting that the obstacles often run deeper than just finding the right match.
Kober explained that today’s matchmaking environment is more complex, with prolonged periods of uncertainty that can erode self-confidence. Singles, especially women, may feel pressured by peers who are already married and starting families, leading to internal doubts about their own worthiness. Coaching helps individuals reconnect with their strengths and sense of purpose, enabling them to approach relationships with greater clarity and confidence.
A key issue raised was the impact of family background. Those from homes with difficult or tense relationships may harbor subconscious fears about marriage, which can hinder progress despite conscious desires to marry. Another significant factor is the phenomenon of "abundance", having many potential matches available, which can cause confusion and a tendency to move on quickly without investing in any one relationship. This often results in missed opportunities and delayed commitments.
Kober described coaching as a supportive process that helps clients identify personal barriers such as insecurity, people-pleasing, fear of intimacy, communication difficulties, or attraction to complicated partners. She shared success stories, including clients who became engaged within a month or overcame harmful relationship patterns to build healthy homes. The conversation also touched on the importance of discerning which family patterns to continue or change, fostering self-awareness without judgment.
The interview concluded with Katan wishing Kober continued success in her mission to guide individuals toward building strong families, contributing to the growth of faithful homes and, ultimately, the national home of Israel.
