Clinic Addresses Sexual Challenges in Israel's Religious Community
Dr. Tal-Li Aviv, a clinical and educational psychologist and a couple and sex therapist, manages the "Duda'im" clinic at Sheba Medical Center in Tel HaShomer, which is dedicated to serving the religious public. The clinic was established to provide professional guidance to traditional, religious, and ultra-Orthodox couples seeking to improve their marital and sexual lives, in cooperation with halachic authorities.
One significant challenge the clinic addresses is the observance of niddah, the laws of menstrual separation. Couples struggle with maintaining physical distance during this period, leading to guilt and distress over perceived transgressions. Aviv explains that the therapy focuses on fostering emotional intimacy and connection during these times, helping couples find ways to be close without fear of physical contact, likening it to strengthening a muscle.
Another issue is the impact of religious upbringing, which often emphasizes modesty and restraint. This can lead to difficulties in navigating sexuality after marriage, with some women raised to view pleasure and even their own bodies with suspicion. Aviv notes that this can create a situation where husbands feel obligated to provide their wives with pleasure but struggle when wives are hesitant or unable to achieve orgasm due to ingrained shame and unfamiliarity with their own bodies.
Aviv also addresses pornography use, which she sees as a result of inadequate sexual education. She recounts instances where partners attempt to replicate acts seen in pornography, sometimes without understanding the potential physical or emotional implications for their partners. The clinic works with women to help them embrace pleasure and become more familiar with their bodies, emphasizing that halachic authorities can provide guidance for addressing specific sexual needs, including helping women achieve orgasm.
Aviv encourages individuals facing such challenges not to be ashamed and to seek professional help, stating that solutions can be found for all issues.
