Psychologist Explains Emotional Impact of Disappearance of Israeli Mother and Daughter in Argentina
Last week, the Israeli public was captivated by the disappearance of Mally and Liel Yahalomi, a mother and daughter who were previously unknown to the public. Nearly a week after they were found safe in Argentina, reactions remain divided between frustration over the perceived unnecessary use of resources and empathy for the women’s desire to start anew. Dr. Dafna Katznelson Bank, a senior clinical psychologist, explains that the case triggered deep psychological and social fears because it challenges the basic illusion that life is predictable and controllable. The seemingly ordinary nature of their trip heightened public anxiety, as people questioned whether such an event could happen to them or their loved ones, especially amid recent years of crises and heightened fears of kidnappings, terrorism, and antisemitism abroad.
Dr. Katznelson Bank notes that the story resonates with collective memories of past dramatic cases, such as the Bank Leumi affair, which revealed hidden family dramas behind normal appearances. She emphasizes that the less information available, the more speculation and anxiety grow. The psychologist also discusses the complex emotions behind public anger after the women were found, acknowledging the justified frustration over wasted resources and the sense of betrayal but also highlighting a hidden envy of the freedom represented by the fantasy of disappearing and starting over.
The desire to disappear can stem from various causes, including real hardships like financial difficulties, family crises, or the ongoing stress of living under security threats and social tensions. Internal struggles such as low self-esteem, chronic stress, perfectionism, shame, or mental health issues like depression and anxiety also contribute. Dr. Katznelson Bank stresses the difference between a genuine wish to vanish and a common human fantasy to escape pressures temporarily. Most often, the desire to disappear reflects a need for a break from responsibilities rather than a permanent escape.
To address such feelings, early identification of distress and mobilizing support systems are crucial. In an era of increasing loneliness and individualism, it is important to identify who can provide help, whether family or professionals, and offer concrete assistance. Effective support not only helps individuals through crises but also opens pathways to hope and change, reducing the urge to flee from reality.
